DEFINED, UNDEFINED, & UNWRITTEN™
is a clinically informed exploration of the roles,
expectations, experiences, and beliefs that shaped
who you learned to be – before, during, and beyond
military service.
DEFINED, UNDEFINED, & UNWRITTEN™
Women Veterans Intensive
Workshop I: Who Have I Learned to Be?
You know your titles. You know your responsibilities. You know how to handle what needs to be handled. But who are you when you are not performing a role, meeting an expectation, completing a mission, or taking care of everyone else?
10:00 AM - 2:00 PM
Progressing through Therapy
418 S. Eugene Court, Greensboro, NC
Women age 25+ who have served or are currently serving in the U.S. Armed Forces
$175 per participant · Limited to 10 participants
Lunch, refreshments, workshop materials, and guided self-exploration are included.
Reserve Your SeatYou Know Your Titles.
Some identities were given to you before you ever put on a uniform.
Daughter. Sister. Caregiver. Good girl. Strong one. Responsible one. The one who could be counted on. The one who figured it out.
Others came later.
Service member. Soldier. Sailor. Airman. Marine. Guardian. Leader. Battle buddy. Protector. Problem solver. The one who gets it done.
And then there are the identities that developed alongside everything else you carried: veteran, civilian, mother, partner, professional, caregiver, leader, woman.
Some of those identities may feel deeply yours. Some may have been necessary. Some may have helped you belong, succeed, serve, stay safe, or survive.
Defined. Undefined. Unwritten.
DEFINED
Who you have been told you are. Who you learned you needed to be. The roles, expectations, responsibilities, rules, and identities that became familiar through family, culture, relationships, gender, military service, work, and community.
UNDEFINED
The uncomfortable space where some of those definitions no longer fit - but you are not yet sure what replaces them. You may still be serving, transitioning, long separated from service, or simply questioning definitions you have carried for years.
UNWRITTEN
The part that has not been decided yet. Not who you are supposed to become. Not who anyone else needs you to be. The space where you begin asking: What do I actually choose?
Maybe You Aren't Trying to Find Yourself Again.
Maybe identity was complicated long before military service.
Maybe you entered the military already knowing how to be responsible, independent, capable, protective, high-achieving, quiet, adaptable, or strong because life had already taught you those things.
Military culture may have strengthened some of those qualities. It may have rewarded them. Challenged them. Reshaped them. Or given them new names.
And maybe you are not trying to get back to the woman you were before the military. Maybe you do not even want to.
Who Did You Learn to Be - and What Taught You to Become Her?
DEFINED, UNDEFINED, & UNWRITTEN™: Women Veterans Intensive creates a space for women who have served or are currently serving to examine identity beyond the titles, responsibilities, expectations, and roles they have carried throughout their lives - including those connected to military service.
This is not about deciding whether the military was “good” or “bad” for you. It is not about requiring you to tell your military story. And it does not assume that every challenge you experience today began with your service.
We are interested in the larger story: who you were learning to be before service, what service reinforced or changed, and who you are continuing to become now.
Who Have I Learned to Be?
Workshop I begins by examining the identities you inherited, developed, accepted, performed, and sometimes needed in order to belong, succeed, serve, lead, protect, stay safe, survive, or simply make it through.
We will explore influences from before, during, and beyond military service — because you did not become a person the day you entered the military, and your identity does not stop developing because your relationship with military service changes.
This workshop is not about immediately deciding who you should become next. First, we are going to look at who you have already learned to be — and where those lessons came from.
This Isn't About Sitting and Listening.
Through structured exercises and interactive experiences, we'll examine identity across life before service, military service, and the life you are living now.
Life Timeline
Explore experiences, relationships, expectations, and transitions that influenced your identity before military service ever entered the picture.
Role Timeline
Examine the roles you have carried across family, relationships, service, work, and community — and when those roles began becoming part of how you define yourself.
Identity Wheel
Look beyond rank, occupation, relationship status, responsibilities, and titles to explore the different dimensions that contribute to your sense of self.
Johari Window
Explore what you recognize about yourself, what others may see, what you choose to keep private, and what may still be waiting to be discovered.
We will also use interactive technology, including opportunities for anonymous responses, so the room can explore shared experiences without requiring anyone to publicly disclose personal information.
You Don't Have to Tell Strangers Your Business.
Let's make that clear.
You do not have to tell your military story. You do not have to disclose trauma. You do not have to explain what happened while you served.
You do not have to prove that your service was difficult enough, important enough, long enough, or anything else enough to belong in the room.
You can participate without turning your private experiences into public conversation.
You decide what you share.
This Workshop May Be for You If...
What This Workshop Is — and What It Isn't
What It Is
A structured, clinically informed educational and self-exploration experience created specifically for women age 25+ who have served or are currently serving in the U.S. Armed Forces.
It is a space for reflection, structured activities, conversation, individual exploration, and opportunities to notice patterns you may not have stopped to examine before.
What It Isn't
This is not psychotherapy, a trauma-processing group, a military debriefing, or a place where you will be expected to disclose personal experiences.
Participation does not establish a therapist-client relationship with any facilitator or Progressing through Therapy, PLLC.
Wednesday, November 11, 2026
418 S. Eugene Court
Greensboro, NC
Limited to 10 participants
Your registration includes:
Guided exploration facilitated by licensed mental health professionals with support from a graduate counseling intern, structured and interactive activities, workshop materials, lunch and refreshments, and opportunities for both individual and anonymous participation.
Attendance is intentionally limited. A smaller setting gives us room for interaction, reflection, questions, and meaningful participation without getting lost in a large conference-style environment.
Three Perspectives. One Shared Exploration.
Shikea McCollum, MSW, LCSW
Army Veteran
Lawanna D. Brown, MS, LCMHCS
Morgan Wheeler, BS
Progressing through Therapy, PLLC
Who Have You Learned to Be?
There are pieces of you that were defined for you, pieces you learned to become, and pieces you have not written yet.
Maybe it's time to decide which ones are actually yours.
Reserve Your Seat